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- Amy

David Beckham Confessing his Love for Lego

British footballer David Beckham has sent the sale of Lego skyrocketing after he confessed his love for the construction toys.

Beckham, 35, had said that he would be playing with the tiny blocks if he had not been a footballer, and that in his spare time in Italy he had been piecing together a huge model of the Taj Mahal.

His comments about the toys have sent sales of the 5,922-piece set soaring by 663 per cent, that too in just one day.

The up in sales made Lego chiefs issue an invitation to Becks, wife Victoria and their sons Brooklyn, Romeo and Cruz to visit their head office in Billund, Denmark - home of the original Legoland park.

“David and the boys are big fans and we are always open to new ideas from people passionate about Lego,” the Sun quoted a Lego spokesman as saying.

“We hope they take us up on our invitation,” he added.

You Annoy Me

I can't help but feel annoyed - all the time. I am annoyed 90% of the day. Co-workers, family, friends, random people, animals, babies crying, the barista at Starbucks, the weather, traffic.... I know this is MY problem and I need to figure out how to deal with it, but I am having a hard time. I used to be really patient with everyone, but I guess I have reached my boiling point and now I don't know how to come back from there. When my family complains - it annoys me. When my co-worker doesn't know how to do something - it annoys me. When a kid is screaming at a restaurant- it annoys me. This is relatively a new thing and I feel ashamed that I feel this way. Its ruining my life. I am trying to practice different trains of though; "She didnt mean to say that/He must be really upset/ Be more compassionate/ These people are important to you, so listen/ It's a kid...be nice"... and sometimes it works, but sometimes it doesn't. The most annoying thing is when people complain about "stupid" things (what I obviously think is stupid), I just want to tell them to shut up and get over it. I know that it is starting to show and people are going to get the hint. I don't want to let this take over my life and push people away from me. What can I do?

- So Annoyed

 

The Bachelor Break-up. Conflicting Stories...Of Course

It's a game of he said she said. Latest The Bachelor star, Jake Pavelka tells People.com that he broke up with fiancée Vienna Girardi to "help get into character" for his guest role on Drop Dead Diva. It appears that Jake can't focus on his acting career while his "untrustworthy" Bachelor pick is 2,000 miles away. Vienna, of course, is telling a different story. She confesses that her and Jake had not been intimate in a while and that she broke it off with him. Vienna admits that she knew the relationship was over a few months into it, but desperately wanted to stay together, so she convinced herself to stay. To top it all off, cheating rumors are swirling, but I don't know that there was ever a time that anyone saw this lasting.

Bug Eating Actress

Salma Hayek loves eating bugs! She confessed to David Letterman that her favorite delicatessen includes fire ants! "These little ants fried are amazing – with a little guacamole," she explains on The Late Show. "And the worms … there are many different recipes for those. The little grasshoppers have a smoky flavor to them. It's the way they cook them, and it's really good." But cooking up these savory treats can be a struggle, according to Hayek. "They're not that easy to find," she tells Letterman. "They're delicatessen."

Another Star Confession: I'm Bisexual

Add singer Vanessa Carlton to the list of celebrities revealing their bisexuality. Carlton - best known for her 2002 hit "A Thousand Miles" - revealed over the weekend that she, too, was bisexual."I've never said this before, but I am a proud bisexual woman," the 29-year-old Grammy nominee told the crowd of 18,000 assembled at Nashville's Riverfront Park on Saturday. Vanessa, who was previously romantically linked to Third Eye Blind frontman Stephen Jenkins, performed her song "Ordinary Day," adding that "the lyrics could be about a boy, girl, tranny, whatever," and proving her point by alternating the pronouns from him to her during her performance.

Moving On

I’ve about given up on the hope that you’ll change your ways. You tell me you’re working on it and waiting to see how your friends turn out to decide on whether our life together is worth it. That alone tells me, to you, it isn’t. I try not to take things too seriously and blow past comments like this in the name of saving what is left of our 6 year relationship. I’m beginning to realize, slowly, that I will be leaving for the Marines and you will be none the different. My only regret is that I couldn’t show you my intention any better than I’ve thought to so far. Nothing seems to get through, so I’m forced to reconcile and accept that you are to become one of those past relationships one dwells on in time. Hopefully some girl down the line will be able to fill your void without reanimating all the problems you have given me.

I’m sorry, though I shouldn’t be, you should, that our lives won’t work out like we’d planned. I really am. I looked forward to having that piece of property with you with our dogs just as much as you did, quite obviously more than you did, it seems. It’s time for me to move on, I know you’ll see this.. you even consider checking your facebook  more important than finding time to come see me. Enjoy your friends, enjoy having a ‘life’ back again, I’ll be spending mine serving our country and picking up where I left off—caring about myself, and myself alone. Good luck with your half of life, I wish you luck if you choose to enter the military behind me, however, I don’t see that happening. I see your life consisting of living out a sham into your mid 30s in the same town I’ve left you in, filling your void with men and friends that are no good for you. Enjoy the time while it lasts, you’ll come to realize in time that you’ve made a larger mistake than I in trusting, dumbly, that you’d change your ways for the better. Good bye.

 

-Anonymous

It's What's For Dinner

My husband is Jewish but follows the "rules" when it's convenient for him. I think we call those "hypocrites" and he is the biggest one I've ever met. If he really believed in his religion this would be a different story, but because he is such an idiot, this doesn't bother me....He won't let his children (from a previous marriage) eat pork or shellfish -  "bottom feeders" as he calls them. We had a child together and he admittedly wanted this child to follow the same rules as his own children. Well, I DO eat pork AND shellfish and didn't want my child to be oppressed and ignorant about food like his are. Its not worth the effort to fight with him, so I feed my child without restrictions when he is not around and follow the "rules" only when he is.

- Get Over Yourself

Confession: Good For The Soul, But Is It Good For The Marriage? By: Isadora Alman

I wrote my Master’s thesis on differing communication styles I dubbed Tell Alls vs. Say Nothings.  Some individuals, man or woman, cement their intimacy by revealing every fleeting erotic fancy, let alone actual previous or current encounters. Also in that camp are those who are turned on by these tales and mark the sharing of them as proof of their special status in their partner's life.  If you are one of these or, more importantly, are coupled with one, the decision to tell or not will be far easier. Your conscience will be cleansed, your partner titillated, and your union will be even more solidified.

But what if you and your partner are not both in the same camp or your communication style status is not so easily discerned?  What if you guess and you guess wrong?  That could very well mean the end of your relationship!

Let me state that for most people, there is a penalty for sexual adventures outside the couple.  Unless the two of you are in an open relationship (and even then in many cases) one person is likely to feel bad about such an occasion. The cheater, for not living up to his or her own standards of morality or the partner’s, and the cheated upon for being supplanted in the partner's affection, even momentarily.  If you tell, both get to feel bad.  If you don't tell, only one of you does.

That might indicate an easy decision then but most of us really have to struggle against the urge to confess.  Whew, what a relief....and then, and only then, do we see the results of obtaining that relief - our partner's anger and distress. So while confessing  might feel better momentarily, the consequences may be dire.

Not confessing has consequences too.  Secrets often create distance, a barrier to intimacy, and the secret holder has to be ever vigilant not to let the cat out of the bag.

Whatever you decide, and no one can make this very private decision for you, here are some points to ponder:

 1) If you decide to confess an indiscretion, plan your disclosure for an appropriate time and manner.  Don=t blurt it out or hurl it out in anger.

2) Be prepared for any possible reaction - from your partner=s leaving you to a long period of healing the broken trust to the possibility of an equal disclosure on his or her part.

3) If you confess, state clearly what you want and expect in the future.  Renewed closeness and appreciation of what you have?  A renegotiation of the rules of your relationship?

4) If you decide to hold your tongue, be prepared for and accept the discomfort that may go along with keeping your secret.  It may be lifelong.

In any case, while it is said that confession is good for the soul, think long and hard before you decide it will be good for yours.

-The Confession Candy Staff

Finding A Girlfriend For My Lover

I'm married and have a lover. I love both men, but I know that what I'm doing is wrong. I know I will never stop seeing my lover as long as he is not dating anyone, and I know he will not leave me (even knowing that I'm married) as long as I keep seeing him, so I'm trying to make him fall in love with one of my friends. I think if this can happen we both will be able to move on, and I can be faithful to my husband.

-Cheating Wife